“You are here to participate in mutually supportive ties with other people, whether they are your blood family of origin or the nurturing network of friends, colleagues, and acquaintances you surround yourself with in your adult life.” -Ronelle Coburn, Destiny at Your Fingertips: Discover the Inner Purpose of Your Life and What It Takes to Live It?
Are you a nurturer?
This article is the first in a series about finding your purpose called “Could This Be Your Life Purpose?”
You can find out what your purpose is by having your hands read. Contrary to popular opinion, hand analysis will not predict your future. Richard Unger, the author of LifePrints, created this system of hand analysis and founded the International Institute of Hand Analysis.
The nurturer, or person with a family life purpose, is happiest creating and tending close connections with others. If you are a family nurturer, you are the glue that connects your family, your communities or your tribe. You are the hub of the wheel in your groups.
(1) Being a loner, choosing to avoid close connections.
(2) Family drama: conflict, disappointments, strained relationships in their family or community.
(3) Unresolved family issues from childhood, such as abuse, alcoholism or family dysfunction.
(4) Codependency: being the nurturer for others, but neglecting yourself.
(5) Difficulty letting go of control, not letting others just be who they are. Wanting to insist that they think and react the way you do.
(6) Allowing people in your life to mistreat you in some way.
(1) What are some examples of the nurturer purpose in your life? Identify two or three and list them here.
(2) Can you think of times when you experience the opposite of this energy? For example, do you tend to go it alone in a self-protective way?
(3) Do you find yourself dealing with family drama or drama in your community groups?
(4) Do you have unresolved family-of-origin issues?
(5) Do you find yourself taking better care of others than you do of yourself? List some examples.
(6) Are you in any relationships or other situations where you allow other people to mistreat you?
(7) Do you have difficulty letting go of control? List any examples you can think of where you wanted to insist that someone think the way you do, etc.
(8) To what degree do you think you inhabit the consciousness of this life purpose on a daily basis? Give it a rating on a scale of 1-10.
(9) To what degree are you able to integrate the nurturer energy with the work you do?
(10) What do you think keeps you from fully inhabiting the nurturer purpose?
(11) What can you do to inhabit it more?
If you answered “yes” to many of the journal questions and can remember experiences that match the description for this life purpose, then you may be a nurturer.